The History of Religious Life Great Saints and Their Spiritual Contribution St. Frances de Sales and St. Jane Frances de Chantal
		  by Fr. John A. Hardon, S.J. 
Fr. Hardon: The Spirituality of St. Frances de Sales. 
The written sources are fairly well exhausted in the lineup that I give there. 
  Notice the number of letters that he wrote.  Two thousand letters of St. 
  Frances de Sales we still have in existence. 
What is the significance of St. Frances de Sales?  May I first ask, whether, 
  we talk about the spirituality of St. Frances de Sales, we are talking about 
  Salesian spirituality. 
Sister:  [Her comment or question is inaudible.] 
Father Hardon:  No. 
What does Salesian spirituality mean?  The spirituality of whom? 
Sister:  St. John Bosco. 
Fr. Hardon:  Well now, you are absolutely right.  But what saint 
  founded the Salesians?  St. John Bosco.  Okay.  Both the men 
  and the women. 
First of all, Frances de Sales built on St. Ignatius, notably of course, 
  his spiritual exercises and Ignatius stress on human liberty. He found out and 
  he was the one who has ever since has been saying and is one of those passages 
  in the Introduction to the Devout Life that the real difference 
  between saints and would be saints.  There are those who are saints voluntarily 
  cooperated with Gods grace. The has beens, pardon me, the would have beens 
  are those who had the grace but did not cooperate. 
Second, his spirituality is a product first of all, of the bishop who 
  was moreover very active in the Episcopal ministry.  He was especially 
  effective in converting many Protestants to the Church.  Figures seem sometimes 
  exaggerated but the biographers keep repeating in the neighborhood of 70,000 
  converts.   
As a bishop he was extraordinarily active in the Episcopal ministry particularly 
  in convincing those many Protestants that God loved them. Because you will recall 
  somewhere along the line, we touched on this either in this class or the other 
  one, that in Calvins vision of God, and Calvin is the great father and god 
  you might say of classic Protestantism, God for all eternity foresaw whom he 
  would predestine for Heaven and whom he would condemn to Hell; but where Calvin 
  parted with historic Catholicism was to claim that God not only foresaw but 
  foreordained. 
And thirdly, that God foreordained some for Heaven and others to Hell irrespective 
  of their conduct.  In other words, it is not that those who would go to 
  Hell would go because God foresaw that they would abuse the graces but rather 
  that for His own glory He wanted some to vindicate His Justice and some to vindicate 
  His Mercy.   Thats Calvin. De Sales was brought up in that mentality, 
  combined with the Swiss and French mentality, goes very strong in the direction 
  of Calvinism.  In France, as you know, they became the Huguenots. At 
  any rate its all very well, we are now talking as Catholics, its all very 
  well, to say that God predestined some people for Heaven and others to Hell.  
  If I can subjectively convince myself that while I am one of those that God 
  has predestined for Heaven, thats great.  Then I am happy on earth and 
  I am going to be happy after death.   The trouble is that not everybody, 
  well, is all that convinced. 
De Sales was not convinced at all.  He was convinced, if he had any conviction 
  that he was on the, I should have put this but if I place it this way, it is 
  on the left side.  De Sales, therefore, in his own life was discouraged.  
  He was despondent and he saw that this kind of pedestinarianism makes for discouragement 
  and finally despair because, and this is not an unimportant feature of his spirituality, 
  the essence of Hope is not only trusting in Gods Goodness or His Grace, it 
  is also trusting that I have the freedom and the will power to shape my destiny. 
  Does that make sense? Thats why, by the way, he wrote his famous treatise On 
  the Love of God. There are two great books in Christian hagiography on the 
  love of God; Bernard and de Sales.  Now de Sales wrote the way he did on 
  Gods love in order to make sure that no one would despair. Not despair either 
  in conjuring up a God who would have the demonic gall of condemning some people 
  irrespective of their merits to Hell.  But also of a God who so loves man, 
  and this is de Sales through and through, who so loves man that He gave man 
  the freedom by which he is to love God in return.  Because the love of 
  God, and this is de Sales, the love of God is not only Gods love for us, it 
  is also our voluntary and free and deliberate and responsive love of God. 
Number Three. The Spirit of St. Frances de Sales can be said to be synthesized 
  or capsulized in The Order of theVisitation. I commend to your 
  reading if you havent done it something about the origins of the Visitation 
  Order.  I know it quite well. I may have mentioned somewhere along the 
  line after I entered the Order, my mother wanted to become a Byzantine nun.  
  I did tell you that I wrote a letter of recommendation which didnt work. The 
  Visitation Order is an Order, therefore, they take solemn vows.  Frances 
  had hoped that the Visitations would be the breakthrough among womens religious 
  communities that would engage in the active apostolate outside the community 
  as religious. He did not succeed.  But his ideas and his spirit opened 
  up for Vincent de Paul that we will take next. 
It is also interesting to note that officially the Church considers Frances 
  de Sales the founder of the Byzantine nuns.  Now no doubt Frances wrote 
  The Rule but its also a tribute to St. Jane Frances de Chantal, in other 
  words, her humility.  As a matter of fact, he did not have all that much 
  contact with her.  He was a busy person; not too often did he see her, 
  and the correspondence was not that frequent, which says something, as you know, 
  one of the great stories of spiritual direction in the history of the Church: 
  Frances de Sales counseling Jane de Chantel. 
Aware of a divided Christendom, Frances de Sales like Ignatius, represents 
  a spirituality in modern times.  Because whatever else is true of the Christian 
  world since the 16th century, it is a divided Christian world and 
  that consequently, we should be concerned and part of our apostolic zeal should 
  be towards converting as we still may say falling back to full communion with 
  the Church, which is more theologically accurate.  Those who are Christians, 
  but not Catholics, I dont hesitate saying and I mean it, the quality of every 
  community founded since the 16th century should include a concern 
  for our separated brethren. 
In many ways, for example this community, you are mainly Catholics, right  
  the girls here but not only  am I correct? Now there are all kinds of prudence 
  and concern, all I am saying is our concern is not only for those who are 
  Catholic but also for those who both Christian, are not as we say, of the household 
  of the Catholic faith. 
He is the Heavenly Patron so declared by the Church of the Catholic Press.  
  He was a first rate pamphleteer.  This is about a century or a little more 
  after the discovery of print.  He saw the Protestants using the printed 
  word to weaken and even destroy the faith of believers.  He wrote extensively, 
  desired to combine contemplation in the active apostolate for women. He referred 
  to that before.  He did, however, get a number of concessions but he never 
  got the full concession of having women be religious and yet engage in the act 
  of external apostolate.  He made the rule for the Byzantandines, though 
  strongly contemplative, remarkably, if I can use the word, easy.  About 
  easy, I dont mean it was childs play but unlike Teresa he did not stress in 
  the pursuit of contemplation mortification, penance, solitude, silence.  
  He stressed, rather affectivity, the intention that I have with which I do whatever 
  I do. He is a great apostle of doing things out of love for God.  And you 
  will grow in the contemplative spirit provided you keep telling God you are 
  doing this out of love for Him and of course mean it. 
 
How to Reach Perfection for the Laity
Finally, de Sales as the author of the great classic on How to Reach 
  Perfection for the Laity. This is of course the introduction 
  to The Devout Life.  We can all profit from the book but its immediate 
  purpose is to assist the laity.  At this point, I would like to just mention 
  in passing that I touched on before, but de Sales gives me the occasion for 
  saying more about it.  As religious, we are not to be satisfied with engaging 
  in apostolic work which may be in some either corporal or spiritual work of 
  mercy and as it were keep our spirituality to ourselves; no, we have apostolic 
  obligation to communicate the charism of our institute to others.  Such 
  things as third orders or oblates or lay associates is part of the history of the 
  Churchs sanctification.  And when we were following the Institute on 
  Religious Life according to the norms that the Holy See was giving us, they 
  could not made it plainer.  In my hours of conversations with the officials 
  in Rome, that we want to have involved in the Institute not only religious but 
  also the laity, the faithful. Because over the centuries the great, well, authors 
  of the spiritualities weve even so far seen and the several more we still have 
  to see. Where indeed are the founders or in this case re-formers, re-founders 
  if you wish, of religious institutes?  But they made sure that their spirit 
  affected other people.  And I dont hesitate saying this least I dont 
  have the time, and I likely wont have the time to talk about this when we come 
  to modern spiritual life, by that time it will be April and May and that is 
  the end of that. 
I think a large part of our problem in religious active institutes like we 
  belong to is due to the fact that we have expanded our apostolic work, good 
  work, that needs to be done; and in the process, we have had to involve an increasingly 
  large number of the laity.  I just happened to check on one occasion, the 
  faculty at Marquette University in Milwaukee so I could quote the figure; I 
  counted them.  There were 100 Jesuits on the faculty, administration and 
  teachers.  There were 1100 lay staff, administration, and teachers.  
  On that proportion, I think you know what I am driving at. That proportion I 
  think can be fairly duplicated in many, if not most other institutes; but my 
  dear friends, therein lies not merely a problem but a crisis.  Either those 
  with whom our religious work or with whom religious associate or who in many 
  ways portray and present the apostolate we are engaged in to the public as witnesses 
  of what we are suppose to be. Either we take some means, and we must take the 
  means, this is no easy thing, to help those people acquire some of our spirit 
  or we are going to harm and I dont hesitate to say even destroy our communities.  
  And the more the state demands all kind of degrees and academic training and 
  skills and certification and licensing, the more people work with us and we 
  with them. We are as human as everybody else; I am afraid that many religious 
  spend most their working hours in the company of others who are not religious 
  and less still members of their own community and among their own.  Do 
  you agree?  And we better know what we are doing. As I have more than once 
  sometimes in long reports to the Holy See pointed out when they asked What 
  happened?  At any rate, de Sales in many ways gives the answer.  
  We are to sanctify the laity and not merely as it were use them and hire them 
  to do a job.  We go to a quarter of, dont we?  Let me start the features 
  we can finish this up in two weeks hence. 
 
First Feature - Divine Love
Let me just mention one and that will be plenty. Divine Love is the primary 
  goal of sanctity.  Yet as, if youve read the Treatise on Divine Love 
  by St. Frances, it is by now you must know, for St. Frances divine love was 
  essentially that deeply interior affection that the loving soul has which he 
  called devotion.  Devotion is deeply personal, sincere, committed love.  
  As a consequence, de Sales as you reread his Introduction to the Devout Life 
  he talks very little comparatively speaking of the kinds of penance and mortification 
  and the heavenly structure even monastic discipline that we have come to associate 
  with other forms of spirituality.  I dont really know why, but my own 
  explanation of this is this.  I believe that Francis de Sales came at that 
  period in human, especially Western history, while the neat classification of 
  society, the kind of orderly organized systematic life that people used to live was 
  disappearing.  He was entering an age of disorder, of confusion, of unpredictability.  
  And he was chosen by God to give us a spirituality that can cope with the disorder 
  of modern society.   Am I clear in what I am trying to point out?  
  That we can be sanctified without being all that programmatic, all that organized, 
  all that structured, all that monastically do this at this time and do something 
  else at another time. Now dont misunderstand me, de Sales was organized.  
  Dont you think its good to hear this? That, but of course, this is Ignatian 
  that I am so deeply in love with God that whatever I do including riding, 
  I come back to the New York subways, I can be growing in sanctity because the 
  God that I love is with me and what is best of all, I am with Him. 
 
Second Feature - Acts of Divine Love
The second of the eight features we are looking at necessarily, briefly, are 
  the acts of divine love are the primary means to sanctity. Behind this 
  feature is a profound principle of theology.  Other things being equal, 
  any given act which I perform, a good act, is that much more pleasing to God 
  as it is performed from a higher and purer motive.  Motivation elevates 
  every action.  There are as we say three determinants of the morality or, 
  in this case, the spirituality of an action:  what I do, how I do it, and 
  why. De Sales great contribution to the history of Christian spirituality is 
  to bring out the importance of the why.  That no matter what I am doing, 
  the more my motive for doing whatever it is, is the love of God, I am growing 
  in holiness because I have as we say sanctified, elevated what I am doing. 
 
Third Feature - Methodical Mental Prayer
We know he was methodical from his writings, even his conferences.   
  We have parts to it and subordinate parts to the major parts.  His Treatise 
  on the Love of God and his Introduction to the Devout Life is systematized. 
There are three reasons I would say for this.  First of all, his own natural 
  temperament  he was a methodical person and consequently you would expect his 
  spirituality to reveal a certain amount of to use a word Methodism; which by 
  the way is why John Wesley was called a Methodist.  He was so methodical.  
  We dont use the word to apply to Catholic people like Frances de Sales, but 
  I should say that they have much in common: Wesley and de Sales. First then 
  his temperament. 
Secondly, his profession  he had been as you know a lawyer.  And a lawyer 
  may lack other virtues but if hes   ever going to win a case, he better be 
  logical, so he was logical, organized, methodical. 
And thirdly, he was a disciple of St. Ignatius. And after I read it ten 
  times, I thought to myself, I guess we all figure that St. Ignatius was very 
  systematic, very methodical, well, he was.  In any case, de Sales being 
  a disciple of Ignatius and a product of the spiritual exercises, he was structured 
  in so far as we can speak of Ignatius spirituality as being structured. 
The value of methodical mental prayer for de Sales was one that he stressed, 
  especially in counseling other people.  The value of method is it tends 
  to create habits.  If you have certain things that you do at a certain 
  time  you do it at nine oclock today, you do it at nine oclock tomorrow.  
  Whats today?  Saturday.  Tomorrow is Sunday.  You do it at nine 
  oclock on Monday. By Tuesday if you dont do it at nine oclock, youll feel 
  guilty. So method or system tends to induce habit.  In fact all psychologists 
  of habit tell you if you want to develop a habit presumably a good one, organize 
  your doing it  certain things done in a certain sequence and at a certain time 
  in a certain way.  Ive got into the habit for example, of writing.  
  When I write for, well, for publication, I have found that my most effective 
  (I was going to say weapon) my most effective instrument is not a typewriter, 
  least of all a lead pencil, even a ball point. It must be a pen and must have 
  jet black ink. Then my thoughts flow.  We get into habits and consequently 
  the more systematic a person can be in planning his spiritual life the more 
  likely that spiritual life will become habitual, makes sense. Certain things 
  you do on Tuesday, certain things you do on Wednesday at 7:30.  Does that 
  make sense?  At any rate de Sales discovered the value of system or of 
  method in the inducing of sound spiritual habits. 
 
Fourth Feature - Simplicity of Prayer
Now he was himself a very learned man.  Nevertheless, he simplified 
  his prayer and this is perhaps one of the distinctive features of the prayer 
  of St. Frances de Sales as he practiced it and preached it is it concentrates 
  on the person of Christ.  He was no St. Dominic. He was certainly not a 
  Thomas Aquinas.  Now he could be as you noticed, if you read some of his 
  writing, he could be could be quite profound and theological, but it is rather 
the person of the Savior in this sense he had a lot in common with St. Francis 
  of Assisi.  The spiritual life is centered on Christ and for Frances the 
  prayer was mainly to Christ or meditation about Christ. 
 
Fifth Feature - Liturgical Prayer
Fifth, liturgical prayer, no great discovery but he emphasized it gives structure 
  to the spiritual life because the liturgy itself is structured. Christmas 
  comes around always on the 25th of December.  Imagine having 
  Christmas coming on the 11th   of December or the 4th 
  of July just to spoil everything.  What would we do on the 4th 
  of July?  There is a cycle.  There are seasons. Within the seasons 
  there are certain days.  We are now in the season of Lent.  And consequently, 
  and this is great wisdom, any religious community that ignores the liturgical 
  cycle is endangering its spiritual life.  Now this is not to say that for 
  Frances it was the same kind of structure that say the monastic communities 
  had, remember the Divine Office and so on and everything centering literally 
  around that Divine Office.  Although, when he finally came to found the 
  Visitation sisters or nuns as they prefer to be called, though he himself as 
  you remember wanted them to be more active in the apostolate, he finally under 
  suasion of, well, of his own Metropolitan Bishop.  He was a very obedient 
  man, though a bishop he had a Metropolitan, whom he could have ignored but he 
  didnt.  The Metropolitan insisted that the womens community or thats 
  what is was that he was founding be monastic as far as possible. So that liturgy 
  became so structured in the Visitation community that it became the center of 
  that community.  But even in his Introduction to the Devout Life notice 
  the stress on the Mass, on the Feasts of the Church and so on.   All 
  I can tell you is that if we start re-thinking our  even our prayer life concentrating 
  seeing during Lent on certain mysteries of Christs life, in the Easter season 
  certain other mysteries, on Sundays certain other attributes either of God or 
  mysteries of Christ.  It will do something to your spiritual life, which 
  Frances felt was essential for sound religious living. 
 
Sixth Feature - Eucharist and Penance
Sixth, the Eucharist and Penance are as we call them sacraments of preservation. Remember, 
  he is writing in the 17th century, before the advent of our present 
  frequent communion.  In any case, he required both of his penitents and 
  gave very lenient permissions for his day to receiving communion often.  
  What are the two sacraments of Eucharistic preservation;  Eucharist and 
  Penance.  What do they preserve?  Penance preserves from sin.  
  The Eucharist preserves in grace.  In the two, grace and sin, are perfect 
  contraries.  So much so that in theology we say we can describe the state 
  of sin is the absence of grace or the presence of grace as the removal of sin.  
  There are then two basic elements to the spiritual life.  One is to be 
  rid of sin the other is to grow in grace.  These two sacraments take care 
  of each. Penance to have us, first of all, have our sins forgiven, to cope with 
  the sins  sinful tendency which we have a, well, we have an urge to commit 
  certain sins.   Penance gradually overcomes our natural concupiscence 
  and gives us that self-mastering which except for the sacrament we would not 
  achieve.  And the Eucharist, receiving as faith tells us the Author of 
  Grace, preserves this grace in our souls. 
 
Seventh Feature - Optimism
Seven, Frances de Sales was a strong optimist. He had himself been very pessimistic, 
  deeply affected by the Calvinism of his day, but his optimism was born of grace. 
  Meaning what?  Meaning that, although he came on one occasion in his life 
  to the point of despair but though he despaired of his own lack of virtue and 
  his own inability to do what he should, his trust that Gods grace would save 
  him made him an extraordinary gentle, kind, peaceful, understanding and for 
  our purpose, optimistic person who is not that by nature at all.  If you 
  have any pessimistic streaks in you, if you tend to moods or despondency, you 
  might read more of St. Frances de Sales, because grace can change you. 
 
Eighth Feature - Growth in Perfection as Growth in Devotion
Finally, growth in perfection as growth in devotion. We saw earlier first of 
  all that every title of his book and the French title is exactly what the English 
  translation is Introduction to the Devout Life. You might almost say 
  that Frances de Sales coined the expression  devotion.  Devotion for him 
  is as it should be for us too as votum. You notice the centerpiece of 
  devotion is the same as the Latin word for vow. Whats vow in Latin?  Votum.   
  What is votum?  That which is willed.  Thats what a votum 
  is; that which is willed; chosen and willed.  And consequently, Frances 
  placed great stress on wanting to become holy, wanting to become a saint. Did 
  you come across that passage in the Introduction to the Devout Life? It 
  scares you. When he was asked why there are not more saints, all kinds of reasons 
  that people give, he gives only one reason.  Now of course there are saints 
  and Saints.  Saints, well, with a small s; saints with a bigger S and 
  great big Saints. 
Now the size of our sanctity will depend on the amount of grace but in essence, 
  in essence, perfection means, in the Latin word perficere means, to finish, 
  to complete.  Who then has reached Christian perfection?  The one 
  who is as far as God is concerned, finished, completed; thats as far as shes 
  going. What? Am I making sense?  In other words, for some of us  now look 
   all of us have a lot farther to go than I am afraid most of are going.  
  Have no fears that any of us are going to be, you might say, pygmies or midgets 
  and I wish I got more grace so I could become a bigger saint.  Have no 
  fears, youve got plenty to work on with the grace youve got.  The point 
  is the perfection is the fulfillment of that sanctity which God has in store 
  for me.  I read once, I hope the author is wrong, he speculated that people 
  live as long as God knows they need to live to reach their degree of sanctity.  
  Its not too encouraging, especially when you see holy people die young.  
  Then you wonder how much longer do I have to live having done such a poor job 
  so far.  In any case for de Sales the grace is up to God.  Dont worry 
  how much grace youve got, whether youve got enough.  Go to the sacraments, 
  do your prayer, youll get the grace. Ah, but my dear friends in Christ, de 
  Sales would tell us, the secret is this votum.  Are we clear?  
  Its how much we cooperate thats what devotion means.  It is loving God 
  by giving Him my will.  And the more completely and totally I give Him 
  my will, the more holy I will become. Although it is by now not just one heroic 
  act of the will and then we relax and go into supernatural hibernation.  
  Ive made my act of the will for the year.  No, no, this is an on-going 
  enterprise.   So much then for growth in perfection as growth in devotion.  
  We shall become as perfect as we want to be.   God wants all of us 
  to be holy.  Have no fears that you wont become say a St. Teresa of Avila.  
  Have no envy.  Dont worry that others are getting more graces.  You 
  look to yours.  Use yours. Use that will.  
Now some typical statements. Contemplation is a loving, simple 
  and constant attention of the mind to divine things.  Notice what de Sales 
  is saying, we pray contemplatively when, of course, using our wills but if I 
  can use the expression, we stop thinking and we start looking. Whereby thinking 
  I mean reasoning and some of us are great reasoners and our faculty of ratiocination 
  as its called has been sharpened to a razors edge. But in the presence of 
  God, theres some reasoning weve got to use.  For example, Ive got to 
  reason myself into why I should be praying.  Well, all right, do it.  
  But once youve got something that you believe in, look at it and this is where 
  Christ comes in.  This looking at is not a speculative kind of reflection.  
  It is rather looking at a scene, at a word of Christ, at some episode in the 
  Gospels and just staying there.  Contemplation is staying put in the presence 
  of God. 
Second, to despise any at Christian perfection is a great sin.  
  That deserves to be memorized. We assume of course that people have the vocation.  
  Now in one sense every Christian has the vocation.  But there are some 
  who obviously have the vocation and thus are religious.  It is then good 
  moral theology as I have been telling people and spiritual directors and priests, 
  tell the people a religious who does not strive after perfection and has really 
  given up is in the state of grave sin. And here you dont coast; this striving 
  means effort. 
Third, man is the perfection of the universe; spirit is the perfection 
  of man; love the perfection of spirit; charity the perfection of love.  
  Only de Sales could coin that compound sentence.  What is he really saying?  
  He is saying put together the last word and the first word of that sentence 
  and you have the key.  Mans highest function before God is to love.  
  This is why God made the world. God made the world in order to be loved by His 
  creatures.   And why as we teach that given all the logic of Gods 
  creative work, He could not have stopped at the irrational, inanimate and therefore 
  unloving creation.  Puppies and cats dont love, they may cuddle. You can 
  do all kinds of things and oh, one of the  the ads in the New York subways 
  are something.  One that I just noticed, in fact, on the way to the airport 
  yesterday, showing a puppy and a cat, sweet looking things and the caption above: 
  We need a haven of love.  A haven of love?  If you wish to give either 
  permanent or temporary lodging to strayed beasts,  by the way this is my commentary 
  on the ad   please call
 They had several numbers.  The same city that 
  gave abortion to the nation. The city where a single abortion mill I am told 
  by women who stand outside, average from one to two hundred and fifty abortions 
  a day. Only man can love and what de Sales is saying, God made the world in 
  order to be loved and it is up to us to fulfill His divine purpose of creation. 
Fourth. The death and passion of our Lord is the sweetest and 
  most compelling motive that can animate our hearts in this mortal life.   
  Only a mystic can say that and mean it.  Because as he knew and were learning, 
  if you want to love God the way were suppose to with that devotion, that willingness 
  that God expects of us, well have to pay, well have to suffer, well have 
  to endure pain.  To do anything you need motivation and the harder it is 
  the higher must be the motivation.  To sit down to a good meal you hardly 
  need motivation.  All you need is one look at the dish.  You dont 
  even have to think.  But as the action becomes more demanding, as its 
  harder, you need higher and deeper motivation.  And the highest and deepest 
  motivation we can have for suffering is the realization that God became man 
  in order to suffer for us.  Humility is the recognition that we are absolutely 
  nothingness and it keeps us constant in this estimation of ourselves.  
  Again, only a Francis of Assisi or Frances de Sales could say that we are absolutely 
  nothing because everything we naturally think about ourselves suggest that we 
  are something.  In any case, the more humble we are the more surely, and 
  this is Frances de Sales, we have a chance of becoming holy.  The only 
  danger in the spiritual life and the more you work at other virtues, the more 
  youve got to look to your humility. 
And finally, speaking to the Visitation Community, the peculiar 
  spirit of the Visitation is the spirit of profound humility towards God and 
  of great gentleness with our neighbor.  Ah, how wise Frances was.  
  You remember that passage in the Gospels where Christ tells us to learn from 
  Him.  How does that go?  Learn of me for I am meek or gentle and 
  humble of heart.  Meekness being gentleness.   Those two virtues 
  go together; they are inseparable.  Humility and gentleness.  Only 
  humble people are gentle.  Proud people are always, memorize the adverb, 
  they are always harsh. Oh they may be sweet externally but there is a coldness, 
  theres a sharpness, there is a thoughtlessness about pride for the best of 
  reasons because what is pride except preoccupation with self.  I notice 
  what Frances does, he distinguishes these two virtues profoundly by saying that 
  humility belongs to our relationship towards God and gentleness to our relationship 
  with our neighbor.  So the more genuinely humble I am before God, the more 
  gentle Ill be in dealing with others.  And of all people both in his own 
  life and in his teachings who could teach this it was he, Frances de Sales, 
  who was masculine to the last hormone in his body, nothing effeminate about 
  de Sales  strong, firm, constant.  The only mistake that people can make 
  is to suppose that gentleness means softness  just the opposite.  Only 
  strong people can be gentle because among my definitions of gentleness, it is 
  power restrained by love.  Some people seem to be gentle but they are sentimental.  
  It takes a person who you know could crush you, I dont mean physically, but 
  say intellectually, who allows you to make mistakes and doesnt laugh at your 
  mistakes.  It takes a person of strong virtue who can see weakness around 
  him and not consider that he or she is better than somebody else.  In any 
  case, so much for de Sales. 
 
 
Conference transcription from a talk that Father Hardon gave to the 
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